FIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD BE DOING IF YOU CAN NOT LAST TWO MINUTES IN BED

James stepped out of the office feeling a bit anxious. He had just finished a session with the family doctor who suggested some measures to address his concerns, mentioning that he would be referred to a specialist if there was no improvement. For the past six months, James has been experiencing difficulty in his sexual life. Initially, it was sporadic, so he didn’t take it seriously, but now it was becoming a significant issue, and he was worried about his relationship with his wife. And he didn’t know how to talk about it, or even what exactly to call it. At first, James had hesitated to seek help due to embarrassment, but his wife encouraged him to see their doctor.

If you’re in a similar situation, you’re not alone and the good news is that there are ways out. Let’s see how.

James is likely dealing with Premature Ejaculation (PE), a condition where a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would like during sex (around 2-5 minutes). It’s more common than most men admit. In fact, studies show that at least 1 in 3 men may experience it at some point.

1. Why does it happen?
   For James, it started when he lost his job and became depressed. He would get so anxious that he climaxed almost immediately. But it can also be caused by:
   - Performance anxiety
   - Relationship issues
   - Hormonal imbalance
   - Oversensitive skin on the penis
   - Lack of sexual experience
   - Underlying health conditions (like prostatitis or thyroid problems)

What should you be doing right now?
Here are five first-line tips to help you take control:
- Find the underlying cause: Premature ejaculation can be linked to psychological stress, anxiety, hormonal issues, and even relationship problems. It’s important to not just treat the symptoms but to also address what caused it. Seeking professional help early, as James did can save your relationship and your peace of mind.

• - Try thick condoms or desensitizing creams: These reduce sensitivity and can help you last longer, especially if your problem is caused by oversensitivity.

- Practice the “start-stop” technique: This involves stopping sexual activity just before climax, taking a deep breath, waiting a few seconds, and resuming. Over time, this helps you train your body to delay ejaculation.

- Improve Your Lifestyle Habits: Excessive alcohol consumption, smoking, poor sleep, and a sedentary lifestyle all play a role in sexual dysfunction. Cutting back on alcohol and cigarettes, improving your sleep, and staying active can help restore sexual stamina.

• - Exercise Regularly: Exercise, especially pelvic floor exercises (like Kegels), can improve the duration of intercourse. Activities like walking, jogging, or swimming also help regulate hormones, improve blood flow, and boost confidence which are essential for better performance in bed.

The bottom line?
James felt relieved to finally talk about his struggles and ask for assistance. The doctor strongly advised him to improve his daily routine and start exercising. James didn’t see changes overnight, but his commitment to improving his health, managing stress, and staying consistent paid off. He regained his confidence and restored intimacy in his marriage. He lasted longer and enjoyed his sex life after a month of practicing this advice. 

If you’re also struggling with premature ejaculation, remember that you're not alone, and help is available. Making these small lifestyle changes can lead to major improvements, not just in your sex life, but in your overall well-being.

Until you read from me again, take care of yourself and last longer!